Sexuality collapses under the Weight of an Impossible Demand: Marc Gafni

Sex – and this is the secret of the cherubs – is one of our great spiritual guides. What we will do in the rest of these blogs over the coming year, is to outline in every set of blogs a particular quality of being which is modeled in the sexual. These are the essential qualities needed to live a life of wonder in body, mind and spirit. However, we have lost our access to them. These qualities wind up not only being modeled by the sexual; tragically they are accessed in our lives virtually only in the sexual. As a result much of our lives feel drab and vacant — a pale reflection of what we once dreamed life could be. Our work, our friendships, our relationship to nature, knowledge and the spirit, our families, neighborhoods and communities — all of these have been disenchanted and de-eroticized.

However we cannot live in non erotic world. So unconsciously we seek compensation. We look to get our erotic fix in the sexual. But this doesn’t work either. For when you de-eroticize all of the world except sex, then the sexual collapses as well. You see, we all have erotic needs. These needs require attention in all of life, but if we ignore them in all of life then we demand that the sexual fill all of our erotic needs. And so sexuality shrugs, collapsing under the weight of an impossible demand.

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