I Love Him For the Man He Almost Is: Marc Gafni

To love a person is both to perceive and identify a person — not only with the best of who they are, but the best of who they could become. We are not human beings; we are human becomings.

In fact, the original Hebrew the words “I am” do not exist. “I am” in Hebrew is rather, “I will become.” Likewise, when Moses asks God his name, God answers “Asher Ekyeh Asher.” Usually this strange and potent phrase gets translated as “I am what I am.” Or in the words of Popeye, “I yam what I yam.” But the actual translation is “I will be what I will be.” God is “will be.”

God is Becoming.

To love is to see in an other what they cannot yet see themselves. In the ninties film Jerry Maguire, Jerry’s girlfriend captured this idea well when she said, “I love him for the man he wants to be. I love him for the man he almost is.” Holy wisdom is sometimes found in the most unlikely places. And somehow, through being loved, we begin to be who we want to be, who we really are. To love is to embrace another not only as a human being but as a human becoming.

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