Moving beyond the obsession with the personal helps you to wake up. You evolve from separate self to True Self.
You begin to realize that you are in fact not an isolated or separate part, but rather you are part of the whole, of All-That-Is.
Once, however, you have had that realization or even a glimmer of that realization, the personal will begin to come back online at a higher level.
At this point, your Unique self, your feeling of specialness, reemerges, but this time in a far more clean, clear, and crystalline form.
As my lineage master, Mordechai Lainer of Izbica, taught, when you evolve beyond ego, your uniqueness/specialness does not disappear; it becomes clarified.
At the Unique Self, you reconnect to your specialness with the stunning realization: You are special! You are unique!
Your Unique Self (p. 62, 63)
Marc Gafni