marc gafni In the language of the Kabbalists, giving moves you from narrow constricted consciousness to mochim de gadlut, expanded consciousness. This is critical to understand because what it means is that agape and philia lead to Eros. In the Greek ...

In Every Detail One of the most gorgeous things about relationship is that it is so clear that every small act of attention and giving weaves another strand in the fabric of the relationship. There is no such thing as a casual favor or fruitless givi ...

posted by Dr Marc Gafni asst. I remember one evening when my second son, Yair, first asked me for a new bicycle that I could not afford. It hurt. I thought about it all night. Had I pursued other directions in life, I would be able to easily provide ...

Love is as Love Does Love doesn’t just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all the time, made new. -Ursula K. LeGuin, The Lathe of Heaven Loving and giving are inextricably bound up. The great medieval philosopher Maimoni ...

The Baron Loves The giving necessary in love is made clear in a great folktale. There was once a fisherman who caught a large pike. Seeing what a substantial catch this was, he says out loud, “I won’t eat this fish. He is such a great catch that ...

posted by Dr. Gafni assistant Dr. Gafni asked me to dedicate this post to the staff and community of iEvolve Global Practice Community Transcendence & the Gradual Widening of Self To be a lover is to be a giver. It is through the consistent commi ...

Transcendence & the Gradual Widening of Self  To be a lover is to be a giver. It is through the consistent commitment to the growth of the other expressed through regular and spontaneous acts of giving that you become a lover. Slowly over time � ...

You see, built into the sexual is an enormous desire to give, particularly to give pleasure. In virtually all arenas of living, most of us are perpetually on the prowl for the great deal. The great deal is always about getting the most while giving ...

Sensual Saints Rollo May, in his classic work Love and Will, correctly bemoans modernity’s overemphasis on performance and technique at the expense of feeling and passion. He tells one story of a patient who used ointment on the tip of his sexual o ...