“Here’s Lookin at you babe” Eros and Perception: Part II: Marc Gafni

First we need to remind ourselves that Love in Western consciousness has

become a very limited proposition.

To begin with, we are used to thinking of love as a storybook fantasy which is all too often marred by the realties of life. Truly great love, we believe deep down, is the province of only a few lucky souls. Further, the Greek image of Cupid’s Arrow dominates our thinking about loving. Love is hit or miss, it is something that either happens…or doesn’t.

Finally, in the Western myth, one “falls in love.” Love is not something we have any control over — in fact, it is a fall of sorts. Language expresses this consciousness with the common phrase, love struck. The idioms of love suggest that love is the result of some outside influence or force.

The tantric secret of the cherubs says something else entirely. It teaches that love and Eros are skills that are modeled by the sexual. Sex is our teacher; if we but listen deeply to its sensual whispers, we will be able to identify the unique qualities of the sexual. It is those very qualities which teach us — in all of our non sexual lives — how to be great lovers. We rise in love when we learn the art of eros.

We do not need to wait for love to happen to us. We are in control.

marc gafni
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