Is there such a thing as a real victim? Yes, but there are also pretenders. Here’s a relevant passage from my forthcoming book, The Dance of Tears:
The pseudo-victim has genuine options which she refuses to action; she refuses to turn fate into destiny and cries more than it hurts. Another kind of pseudo-victim also may have some level of real hurt but more often than not the hurt is more imagined than real and being a victim is a freely chosen role which has many hidden benefits which the pseudo-victim seeks to exploit. The hidden victims of pseudo-victims therefore are real victims.
Read the whole passage…